First of all, girls are very particular about the way that other girls view them in general. Look at weddings, for instance. Guys care only a little about their own wedding receptions and even less about other people's wedding receptions, so if a girl is being a bridezilla, it's because she wants to impress the other girls in attendance. This attitude is, of course, carried over into they way a girl dresses, does her hair, does her makeup, etc. Girls love to be praised by other girls for their stylish new hairdo or whatever the case may be. For example, if a guy noticed that a girl had a new purse, which is unlikely, and if he were to tell that girl that he thought her purse was cute, she would think that he was a weirdo at best and a gay-wad at worst. So why do girls obsess over these details that guys usually don't even notice? Because they want to impress their girlfriends. My little bro has been told several times, straight out, that his fiance doesn't dress up for him, but for the girls. When my mother-in-law overheard that, she responded "Oh, how cute," and she wasn't being sarcastic. Proven.
Second, girls do some crazy things sometimes that guys don't find attractive, and it's usually to impress other girls. Here are some examples. A girl wants to get dreadlocks. Her girlfriends think it's an awesome idea. Approximately 0% of guys think that this is attractive, a fact that she is at least vaguely aware of. She gets dreads anyway.
Another girl likes to put her hair in a fauxhawk. Same set of circumstances. Same final action. While we're on the subject of hair, same thing with the poof thing, and same thing with short hair in general. OK, short hair is ok sometimes, but usually its a no-go, from a guy's perspective. Uggs and furry boots (unless you're black and they're worn with apple-bottom jeans) are more examples of unattractive things that girls do for other girls, in spite of a general dislike by the male sex. The egyptian eyes are another horrible move. Girls, to guys you look like clowns when you do your eye makeup this way. The list goes on and on. These same girls claim to be interested in establishing romantic relationships with guys, but they continue to care more about what girls think of them. Who can explain this to me? I'm issuing the challenge.In closing, I would like to take this opportunity to express my utter befuddlement over the whole Zooey Deschannel thing.
Here are some guesses regarding Zooey statistics based on my experience and preference. The percentage of girls who know who Zooey Deschanel is is about 50%, compared to about 20% of guys who know who she is. This is not because fewer guys have seen a Zooey Deschanel movie than girls, but because girls take notice of Zooey Deschanel, and guys usually don't. Of the girls who know who Zooey Deschanel is, about 75% have a girl-crush on her. Compare that percentage to the percentage of guys who know who Zooey Deschanel is and have a crush on her (about 3%). Girls, from a guy's perspective, she's just not that good looking. I feel like every girl wants to be Zooey Deschanel, wants to do her hair like Zooey Deschanel, wants to sing like Zooey Deschanel, wants to dress like Zooey Deschanel. Why does she seem so awesome to you, girls? I mean, don't get me wrong. I think that she's a good actress, and I usually enjoy her films, and she's not ugly. She's just not that cute, either. So if you're part of the minion that worships and tries to emulate Zooey Deschanel, just know that guys don't go for that stuff. Not that it makes a difference to you.Why?
Ya know David, I was just telling this to my husband the other day; I completely agree with you! Women do all their hair and makeup to look good for other women. Like men, it's in our nature to compete with the same sex...and most of the time we don't know we're doing it. And although I'm not single, I read this anyway :) But good point!
ReplyDeleteI agree with everything but the Zoe thing. Guys do go for that. And the reason we (women) love her so much is because she is just so feminine and beautiful in a "girl-next-door" kind of way. She is cute, but she is nothing to write home about, really, and that is why we love her. She is approachable. She is a celebrity we could actually be like. And David, trust me, if you had seen her live, you too would have been taken by her charm. She's just so damn cute!
ReplyDeleteI had a friend, Red, who just got dreads and I had the thought, "do guys find that attractive?" I figured no, but from the positive responses she was getting from the males, I got really confused. Maybe some guys find them really hot. Or maybe they just think they are cool but would never date a girl with them. Or maybe they are lying to her. Let me know which one it is.
Also, another thought. I do think most of the time girls get ready for other girls. In fact, I can distinctly remember times when I have gotten ready for church and thought, "I can't wait until Katie or Erika see me, they are going to love what I am wearing." So it is true. But there are times that I dress up real nice for the guy-folk. (Like Saturday, for example, I wore a cute spring dress and curled me hair all nice--to impress some guys). And I love it when guys compliment me.
ReplyDeleteNow, as far as weird hairstyles, such as the faux hawk, I think sometimes we women get really independent. And we aren't thinking about whether or not a male is going to find how we dress or do our hair attractive, we just do it. Sometimes, even, it is something that we do in order to challenge the men. I remember when my hair was a short as Jana's, I used to stick it straight up anytime I went on a date. This was the time in my life when everyone was setting me up on blind dates and I thought "if this man can handle my hair, then he is worth my time." Don't worry, I have since changed this attitude and I morphed into a woman who loves to look like a woman. I wear skirts and dresses more than I wear pants and I love looking pretty. But for a time it was a rebellion against men, a way to be a challenge. I don't know if that makes sense. But there you go.
>.< LOL Oh, you have NO idea how you just made my day... That's TOO funny. And so true!
ReplyDeleteThat is Chase's favorite song btw. =)
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